{"id":20061,"date":"2023-01-05T14:00:47","date_gmt":"2023-01-05T03:00:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.anneskyvington.com.au\/?p=20061"},"modified":"2024-03-09T09:28:32","modified_gmt":"2024-03-08T22:28:32","slug":"a-shared-sense-of-humour-its-a-great-thing-isnt-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.anneskyvington.com.au\/a-shared-sense-of-humour-its-a-great-thing-isnt-it\/","title":{"rendered":"A Shared Sense of Humour\u2014It’s A Great Thing, Isn’t It?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
I wrote this article on Medium some months ago, because I was stunned by the differences between our Aussie sense of humour and that of the Americans whom I met on the platform. Ours is more influenced by English irony and satire, whereas theirs is closer to slapstick, is situationally based and uses exaggeration for effect. I’ve long enjoyed exploring differences between cultures, but I wasn’t prepared for the implications of this difference. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nI used the American spelling, “humor” instead of “humour”, but I have reverted to the English forms here. <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Humour can bind two people together<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
One of the things I liked about my partner when I first met him was his sense of humor. We are both Aussies and our sense of humor is similar. Sometimes a little on the dark side, closer to irony and to English humor than to belly laughs. Although that can be great too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lately it has verged, from time to time, onto a \u201cDad style\u201d sort of humor. No matter, as we are both ageing well together. I can\u2019t always hear what he is saying, and he can\u2019t always see things clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Humour can keep us apart<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Our son, when he reached 19, married a woman who lacked a sense of humor. This did not bode well for our family structure. We tried and failed to bridge the gap. He lost his sense of humor and we are still estranged. that is the sad side of differences. There always remains hope for the future, of course.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Humour as Therapy<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The good thing about humor is that it can save you from depression. There are laughter platforms and podcasts where you can forget about your woes and let it rip! Humor is the best remedy for sadness that exists. Forget irony and allow a belly laugh to burst forth!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nOne of our low budget Aussie movies, The Castle, <\/em>based on a type of humor that is typical in our culture, still enables us to guffaw each time we view aspects of the dialogue. See Wikipedia: https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/The_Castle_(1997_Australian_film)<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Humour can kill<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The French journalists who joked about the Islam religion learnt the hard way that humor can kill, when radical Izlamists stormed the offices of Charlie Hebdo killing 12 people in Paris in 2015. And a whole movement sprang up in France and around the world in support of freedom of speech.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nIn 2011, the magazine was attacked by a petrol bomb after it ran a special Arab Spring edition entitled \u201cSharia Hebdo\u201d that included a cartoon of the Prophet Muhammad on the cover as \u201cguest editor.\u201d It read, \u201c100 lashes if you don\u2019t die of laughter!\u201d International Business Times (IBM) 2015<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Cultural Differences with Humour<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Slapstick humor can be funny, but I was brought up on a diet of English satire and ironic dry humor. Try explaining irony to someone from a different culture. It\u2019s hard. Like all humor, you just have to \u201cget it\u201d or not. Explaining jokes never works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I realize, since writing on Medium, that one of the things that separates me from some others on this platform, is humor. I often just don\u2019t often want clarity and help, not humor. And an element of irony is that there are usually two sides to it, as there is to everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Different Senses of Humour<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
I lived in France for five years when I was quite young. But I never got used to the Gallic sense of humor. I think it\u2019s quite intellectual. Some of the French movies I really loved, but not so much their comedies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I tried to tell a joke once to an American friend and it fell flat on its face. Perhaps it was my delivery! That\u2019s another important aspect of humor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I know now that there are different types of humor even within a culture. I appreciate a Jewish sense of humor, in which jokes can be very funny even to the uninitiated, if told properly by a Jewish person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Humour Can Be Cruel<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Often humor is directed against others. It can be a kind of personal attack. Some journalists and politicians use it to gain status and notoriety. One of our funniest prime ministers was Paul Keating, who said some of the most remembered one liners and funny sayings, usually directed against his opponents. Acerbic humor was one of Keating\u2019s traits.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cCan a souffl\u00e9 rise twice?\u201d was his response to a question about Andrew Peacock\u2018s return to power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Humour can be enlightening<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
It is said in Tibetan Buddhism for Westerners that, once monks become enlightened, they roll around on the floor, laughing great belly laughs about the pettiness and stress of life. This happens when they realize \u201ctruth\u201d and come face-to-face with the real meaning of emptiness. This suggests that humor is akin to spirituality, at least in Buddhist terms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Humor is multi-faceted, that\u2019s for sure. It can be dark, slapstick, ironic, satirical, sarcastic, threatening, intellectual and even spiritual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Take Away<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
I’ll finish by adding that I never really understood American humour while on Medium, even though I met some very special people there. Nor did I improve greatly with digital expertise, which often left me feeling like the dummy in the class. And yet my experience underlined for me the particular niche and niches that I wish to explore through creative writing. And it’s not digital, although I intend to continue to learn and to improve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Feature Photo: Ape and woman sharing a joke? Pixabay<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Yes, but not everyone has the same sense of humour to share, and some may even lack a sense of humour completely. I wrote this article on Medium some months ago, because I was stunned by the differences between our Aussie sense of humour and that of the Americans whom I met on the platform. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":14003,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4237],"tags":[4134,4137,4135,4133,4132],"class_list":["post-20061","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-writing-topics","tag-can-humour-divide-rather-than-heal","tag-is-a-sense-of-humour-a-spiritual-quality","tag-is-humour-always-a-good-thing","tag-what-are-some-disadvantages-of-humour","tag-what-are-some-good-things-about-a-shared-sense-of-humour"],"yoast_head":"\n
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